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"Bad Marriage Advice:
Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead"
The refreshingly honest guide that replaces tired relationship clichés with skills that actually work
Inside are 15 myths keeping you stuck, resentful, and disconnected and the proven tools that create the intimate friendship and passionate partnership you actually want.
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What if Everything You've Been Told About Marriage... Is Actually Ruining It?
The well-meaning advice. The "timeless wisdom." The clichés everyone swears by...
They're not helping. They're hurting.
And if you've been following them, it's no wonder your marriage feels harder than it should.
Does This Sound Familiar?
You've heard it all before:
- "Never go to bed angry" (So you stay up exhausted, fighting at 2 AM)
- "Happy wife, happy life" (While one of you slowly disappears, resents and withdraws)
- "Don't sweat the small stuff" (Until the small stuff explodes into big resentment)
- "If you really loved each other, you'd just know what the other needs" (Spoiler: No one's a mind reader)
- "The right person will never hurt you" (And when they do, you panic that you married the wrong person)
You've tried to follow the rules.
You've worked hard at your marriage.
But somehow, you still feel:
- Disconnected from the person you used to feel so close to
- Misunderstood, like you're speaking different languages
- Exhausted from walking on eggshells or having the same fights over and over
- Alone, even when you're in the same room
- Confused about whether this is just "how marriage is" or if something's actually broken
And the worst part? You're starting to wonder if maybe you picked the wrong person... or if "happily ever after" is just a myth people tell to sell greeting cards.
Here's What No One Tells You:
The problem isn't your marriage.
The problem isn't even your spouse.
The problem is the advice you've been given.
The platitudes. The one-size-fits-all rules. The outdated scripts that sound romantic but create dysfunction.
That advice wasn't designed to help modern couples build intimate, passionate, lasting partnerships. It was designed to keep people together at all costs, even misery.
But you? You don't want to just stay together.
You want to actually like each other. To feel seen. To laugh together. To have mind-blowing sex and deep conversations and a relationship that makes life better, not harder.
And that's 100% possible.
You just need better information.
What if Someone Finally
Told You The Truth?
Not the Pinterest-quote version. Not the keep-the-peace-at-all-costs version.
The real, honest, this-is-how-thriving-marriages-actually-work version.
That's exactly what this book does.
Not the Pinterest-quote version. Not the keep-the-peace-at-all-costs version.
The real, honest, this-is-how-thriving-marriages-actually-work version.
That's exactly what this book does.
Bad Marriage Advice takes the 15 most common (and most damaging) pieces of marriage advice you've ever heard... and replaces them with skills, strategies, and honest truths that actually create connection.
Inside, you'll discover:
- Why the advice that sounds most romantic is often the most destructive (and what to do instead)
- The hidden cost of "keeping the peace" and how it's secretly destroying your intimacy
- What happy couples actually do when they fight (spoiler: they still fight—they just do it differently)
- The one skill that eliminates 90% of resentment before it even starts
- Why "meeting in the middle" leaves both of you disappointed and the collaboration strategy that lets you both win
- The surprising truth about sexual intimacy that no one talks about (but everyone needs to hear)
- How to stop the roommate syndrome even when you're in the busiest season of life
- The real reason you keep having the same fight (and the simple framework that breaks the cycle)
- What couples married 50+ years know that you've never been told
- The 3% rule that keeps you connected without adding overwhelm to your already-full life
- Why your "incompatibility" might actually be your greatest strength (when you understand how to work with it)
- The truth about "growing apart" and how to intentionally grow back together
- How to recognize which conflicts to resolve and which to accept (this changes everything)
- The exact cycle every healthy marriage goes through (and why understanding it will save you years of unnecessary panic)
- Why "happily ever after" is absolutely real—and the daily choices that create it
This Book Will Help You:
- Stop walking on eggshells and start having honest conversations that bring you closer
- Communicate clearly without mind-reading, hint-dropping, or exploding in frustration
- Reignite intimacy—emotional, physical, and sexual—without it feeling forced or obligatory
- Navigate conflict like a pro instead of avoiding it or letting it spiral
- Understand the real cycles of marriage (harmony, disharmony, repair—and why all three are normal and necessary)
- Make specific, behavioral requests that actually get results (no more vague complaints)
- Recognize your triggers and patterns so you can respond instead of react
- Choose each other daily instead of feeling trapped or taken for granted
- Grow together instead of apart, even when life gets chaotic
- Build the kind of marriage that makes your friends jealous (in a good way)
Not Your Typical Marriage Book
Most marriage books give you theory.
This one gives you tools you can use tonight.
Most marriage books tell you to "communicate better."
This one shows you exactly how, step by step.
Most marriage books were written by people who studied marriage.
This one was written by someone who has lived it — 23+ years, 4 kids, real struggles, real wins—and who has helped hundreds of couples do the same as a certified Relational Life Therapy practitioner.
Meet the Author of ‘Bad Marriage Advice’
Monica Tanner is a relationship and intimacy coach, certified Relational Life Therapy practitioner, host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, and—most importantly—a wife of 23+ years who's walked through the valleys and climbed to the peaks of marriage right alongside her husband.
She wrote this book originally for her oldest son and his bride, wanting to give them (and every couple) the truth about what makes marriages thrive—not the fairy tale version, but the real, messy, beautiful version.
Over the past decade, Monica has:
- Coached hundreds of couples back from the brink of divorce to deep connection
- Interviewed 25+ couples married over 50 years (including one couple celebrating their 69th anniversary!)
- Trained extensively in Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real
- Built a thriving practice helping couples create intimate friendships and passionate partnerships
Monica lives in Boise, Idaho with her husband and four kids. When she's not coaching couples or recording her podcast, you'll find her reading (probably another marriage book), training for her next marathon, or planning the next family vacation.
Her mission? To lower the divorce rate and raise the bar on what's possible in long-term relationships.
Her promise? If you're willing to do the work, you can absolutely create a marriage worth staying in.
This Book Is Perfect For You If:
✔️ You're tired of the same fights and want to break the cycle
✔️ You feel more like roommates than lovers and miss the connection you used to have
✔️ You're working hard at your marriage but not seeing results
✔️ You want practical tools, not vague advice like "just communicate better"
✔️ You're committed to your marriage but confused about how to make it better
✔️ You've heard all the clichés and nothing seems to work
✔️ You wonder if you married the wrong person (spoiler: you probably didn't)
✔️ You're engaged or newly married and want to avoid common pitfalls
✔️ You believe "happily ever after" is possible—you just don't know how to get there
✔️ You're ready to stop pretending everything is fine and start building something real
Think You Know What Makes Marriage Work? Think Again.
This book tackles 15 of the most common marriage myths, the ones that sound wise but leave couples frustrated, disconnected, and wondering if they made a mistake.
You know the ones. The advice your parents gave you. The platitudes that well-meaning friends repeat. The "timeless wisdom" that's been passed down for generations.
Like:
❌ The myth that says you should never express certain needs
❌ The one about timing that keeps you up exhausted at 2 AM
❌ The advice that makes one person disappear while the other takes all the responsibility
❌ The belief that makes you question your entire relationship when things get hard
❌ The rule that sounds romantic but creates terrible sex
❌ The expectation that turns marriage into scorekeeping
...and 9 more myths that are quietly sabotaging your connection.
Each chapter reveals:
- The myth and why everyone believes it
- The hidden damage it causes (that you probably didn't realize)
- What actually works instead (with real examples)
- Practical tools you can use immediately
- Reflection questions to apply to your relationship
- TL;DR summaries for quick reference
By the end of this book, you'll be able to:
- Spot bad advice before it derails your marriage
- Replace dysfunction with connection
- Navigate challenges with confidence instead of panic
- Build the kind of relationship that makes you excited to come home
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Frequently Asked Questions
Not at all! This book is for anyone who wants to strengthen their relationship—whether you're engaged, newlywed, celebrating 30 years, or anywhere in between. The skills inside work for couples at any stage.
Great news: You don't need your spouse to read it for the tools to work. Many of the strategies can be implemented by one person and still create positive change. (Though reading it together can spark amazing conversations!
While Monica's faith informs her values, this book is written for couples of all backgrounds. The principles and tools are universal and research-backed.
Most marriage books give theory. This one gives specific, actionable tools you can use tonight. Plus, it's actually enjoyable to read—you'll laugh, you might cry, and you'll definitely recognize your own marriage in these pages.
If you've tried "everything" but haven't tried these specific tools—particularly Relational Life Therapy principles—you haven't actually tried everything yet. This approach is different, and it works.
Nope! While therapy is always a great option, this book gives you practical tools you can implement on your own. That said, if you're dealing with significant trauma, addiction, or abuse, please seek professional help alongside this resource.
Read Chapter 13. Seriously. Most people who think they married "wrong" actually just need better tools. Struggle doesn't mean incompatibility, it means you're two humans trying to build a life together. This book will help.
This book gives you the tools. Whether your marriage improves depends on whether you (and ideally your spouse) are willing to use them. No book can save a marriage on its own, but this one can absolutely give you the roadmap.
Many couples report feeling shifts after implementing just one or two tools. Real, lasting change takes consistent practice, but you'll likely notice improvements within days or weeks, not months.
Yes! Read the first three chapters. If you don't feel it's valuable, email us for a full refund. We want you to feel confident in this investment.
Real Stories From Real Couples
Don't spend another year following advice that doesn't work.
Don't let another fight spiral because you didn't have the tools to repair.
Don't wait until you're "desperate enough" to invest in your relationship.
The best time to strengthen your marriage was yesterday.
The second best time is right now
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P.S. Remember: The couples who thrive aren't the ones who never struggle. They're the ones who know what to do when they do struggle. This book gives you that knowledge.
You’ve heard the clichés:
“Never go to bed angry.”
“Love is all you need.”
“If it’s hard, you must’ve married the wrong person.”
yeah… NO.
In this refreshingly honest and deeply hopeful book, relationship coach and podcast host Monica dismantles the most common myths keeping couples stuck, resentful, and disconnected—and replaces them with practical, real-life tools for building lasting intimacy, emotional safety, and actual fun in your marriage.
Whether you’re newlywed, ten years in, or somewhere between roommates and "what are we even doing," this book will give you the insight, encouragement, and skills to turn things around.
About The Book
What if the marriage advice you’ve been following is quietly sabotaging your relationship?
From “never go to bed angry” to “happy wife, happy life,” couples are bombarded with clichés that sound wise but often leave them feeling disconnected, resentful, or questioning whether lasting love is even possible.
In Bad Marriage Advice, relationship and intimacy coach Monica Tanner debunks the myths that hold couples back and replaces them with clear, compassionate strategies for real communication, lasting connection, and renewed intimacy. Drawing on over two decades of lived experience, a thriving coaching practice, and a faith-centered perspective, Tanner offers a refreshingly honest roadmap to creating the kind of marriage that feels safe, passionate, and built to last.
Whether days or decades into your relationship, you’ll learn how to:
• Communicate without mind-reading or walking on eggshells
• Rekindle emotional and physical intimacy
• Navigate conflict with confidence and compassion
• Grow together instead of growing apart
Based on the fifteen most common pieces of advice couples are given, this book offers practical alternatives that work in the real world, not just in theory.
This is more than advice -- it’s a lifeline. With warmth, clarity, and a coach’s insight, Monica Tanner helps couples move from frustration and survival to connection, joy, and a deeply fulfilling marriage.
